How To Have A Music Career When You’re An Introvert

music business personality Feb 02, 2022

I'm an introverted extrovert. In other words, I enjoy being an introvert and love keeping to myself, but that isn't good when you're self-employed, and your income relies on your being an extrovert, hence the reason I am also an extrovert... if I have to be!

So many of us love to sing and dream of being an artist, but so many of us won't push ourselves too far out of our comfort zone because, by nature, we are just introverted people. This does make it difficult for those introverts that want a music career, but that absolutely doesn't mean you still can't have one! Over the years, I have studied in-depth how to build my confidence, communicate with people, and enjoy being around people because I have always just enjoyed my own company. 

So I want to share with you 3 things that you can do to help you get out of being an introvert just long enough to do what needs to be done to grow your career in 2022! 

1. Separate your personal identity from your business identity. When I realised that I could do this, it completely changed my life! Only, I had to get a divorce to realise it was actually a thing 😅

When I got divorced, I kept my ex-husbands' surname. I had already made a lot of progress as an artist with the name "Kristy James" so I wasn't about to start all over again. This wasn't really a problem for me until I got remarried and, of course, took my husbands' last name, "Davis". I had a lot of inner conflict for a long time until one day I realised that "Kristy James" was a brand; it was its own little business. So I'm not Kristy James anymore, I'm Kristy Davis, but I work for Kristy James, just like others work for Walmart or McDonalds. 

When I changed my thinking, I was able to go and do interviews and promote Kristy James so easily because even though I am tied to that brand and my business, I don't personally identify with it. So it was far easier for me to go out and do what was needed because even though I knew for sure, I would be judged, I didn't care as much because the judgement, the attacks, the criticism wasn't as personal. It wasn't directed at me, "Kristy Davis" it was my brand "Kristy James. 

Having that distinct separation between you and your brand, which might be your name or band name, will allow you to feel more comfortable when promoting and growing your business. 

2. Fake it until you make it. I'm not really a fan of that particular saying, but it is a saying that most of us have heard before and can identify with. I prefer to look at it as adopting a new mindset. Still, faking it until you make it will allow you to build habits that will develop your overall confidence and ability to perform the tasks needed to grow your business. 

So how do you do that? Bit by bit is the answer. Habits can take anywhere from 21 days to a year to create, although I'm sure the bad ones like eating chocolate every day only take a week! So first, you have to start pushing your boundaries, edging out of your comfort zone a little at a time and then consistently doing that new thing.

Taking action is the key. No matter how much knowledge you have, you cannot change a single thing without action. If you don't feel confident in most situations, fake being confident over and over again in every situation until it starts to feel natural, and I promise you, it will. You don't have to go all out to begin with. As I said earlier, it's bit by bit. We start making minor changes. From little things to big things grow, including your confidence, which will alter your personality and help you build your music career.

3. Set your goals. You have to have some guidance, give yourself a timeline of what you're going to do to make the above changes and when you will achieve them. By setting your goals around communication and confidence, you will have a clear plan of what you want to achieve moving ahead. 

It's easy to say, "well, I just want to be an extrovert" ok, how much of an extrovert? What do you want to be able to do? Have a conversation? Promote your music comfortably? Be better in interviews? What is it that you want to achieve? And then, when do you want to accomplish these things? Are you giving yourself a year? A month? I suggest being kind and fair to yourself with this kind of personal development growth can take a little while because you are building habits and setting in place structures that will allow you to grow personally and professionally, it can't be done overnight.

So firstly, learn to separate your personal identity from your business identity, which will allow you to feel more comfortable trying new things. Secondly, fake it until you make it! Push yourself outside of your comfort zone and start building new habits. Over time all of the faking will turn into a habit that will feel genuine. And lastly, set your goals. Why do you want to be more extroverted? Once you identify the why, you can create a plan for the how.

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